……..but you are still going to read this???
I have only read my daughter’s blogs, but have viewed many pictures on DIY blogs in the past. I (usually) only post to facebook for work and often wonder why people share their thoughts, food, vacations, kids, trials & tribulations for all to see. Is anyone really interested?? To avoid being too much of a hypocrite I will not share too much about myself…only what may (or may not) be relevant to this blog.
How this blog started (only an hour ago)…..I had some guests reschedule their morning appointments so I thought I should attempt to clean our home. While vacuuming I began thinking about a conversation I had with my friend Lisa over breakfast & bloody mary’s yesterday (the bloody mary’s were actually tea because our brunch of choice was closed due to snow). My friend is going through a divorce so the topic of conversation was marriage. She asked how “Steve” (not his real name) and I were doing. I told her. Her response was, “Since you don’t do marriage counseling WHAT ARE YOU GOING TO DO!!??
About 10 years ago Steve & I were going through struggles because of the lack of money. The economy had taken a toll on our careers and we were individually trying to figure out how to get ourselves back on track. I thought it would be a great idea to see a marriage counselor! During the FIRST 15 minutes of our first & only appointment the “Doctor” called me abusive; told Steve he doesn’t have to make enough money to help pay the mortgage; that he should be able to work for almost no money for a quasi start up and a few other words of wisdom I have chosen to forget. Steve & I had a screaming fight during the 15 minute car ride home and he dropped me off at a part-time job in the center of our small town a puddling mess. The outcome of my one and only experience was that Steve was phsyched that I was wrong and that a doctor validated that. He viewed it as a win on his side. That weekend the 3 kids and I went up to my parents ski house & I had decided our marriage was over. My dad called Steve to join us.
(DIY Marriage Counseling Steps will start in tomorrow’s blog)
(PLEASE PLEASE do not avoid marriage counseling because of my experience. I truly believe in it. I am just afraid that it will make us think there is more wrong with our marriage than there actually is.)
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